
“Well, even a garden grows stranglers, love. It grows them naturally, all by itself. They creep up and choke the plants that are growing from the very same soil as they are. We each have out demons, our self-destruct button. Even in gardens. Pretty as they may be. If you don’t potter, you don’t notice them.” –Thanks for the memories, Cecilia Ahern.
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As girls always talk about their men(whether officially, unofficially, or of their fantasies), I see how we sometimes forget that we truly deserve better. Not that I think we all should be thinking so highly of ourselves but… if we have to compromise ourselves, our beliefs, our values to make him happy, then we’re no longer complete as a single entity. Maybe sometimes, we need the little gentle reminders to remind ourselves that we’re whole, happy being alone(in the romantic love sense).
Over the phone, she went, “He tried to imply that I’m high maintenance, and he said that you are high maintenance…He saw your nails and heels that day”
And by “you”, is yours truly. And wow, I never knew I had expensive-looking nails. The last time I checked (this minute as I’m typing), they’ve got leopard prints and crystals. And, I did them myself.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to convince anyone out there that I am not “high maintenance”(whatever that truly entails). In fact, I don’t see why I should be apologetic about it. Sometimes, I get suggestions (if I may call them that) from very guys about how I should dress down to be less intimidating (again, what? and then look like I’m going to the wet market?), how I shouldn’t be wearing heels (that was a classic, from my sis’s Med friend. So I told him, “I only live once and I don’t think I can strut in these when I’m 60, so seize the moment!”)..
Ok ok, maybe I’m getting a tad too defensive, as usual. And if you haven’t noticed, I’m steering dangerously away from what I want to say.
I believe, in life, we will meet all sorts of people who tries to impose their personal beliefs on to you. And that’s often true when we get into romantic relationships. Some would think that’s the kinda compromise that we would have go thru. Really? When does compromise become too much? When do we start losing ourselves? When does compromise for love become destructive?
So come on girls, strut in your Christain Louboutins, with your Hermes Birkin. If he is going to judge you solely on your material possessions, then I think you deserve so much more. Don’t make excuses for him.
Sidetrack to classic punchlines: Don’t look at me like I’m going to eat your man. I’d rather eat Creme Brulee.