Ex and the city: Same lover in different forms

And then I wondered, do we always love the same way?
I felt a tinge of disgust, thinking about people who love their lovers, regardless past or present, in the very same way.

Isnt it a mere form of substitution then?
When Carrie and Mr Big’s relationship failed (in season 2), she was told she has been dating the wrong men-men who tortures her feelings, hard to tie down, almost impossible to make a commitment to. All wrong.
So, are we dating the same people, over and over again, just in different forms?..Simply because, we’re attracted to certain types of people, with the kind of “ideal” qualities we get fatally attracted to?

The same style of pursue, the similar words uttered, the same form of what constitues romance.
Maybe we’re just searching for someone willing to put on the mask we want them to wear.

Do we love, to satisfy ourselves?
If so, then the notion of “love” has to be redefined in my dictionary. For the last time I checked, I interpreted “love” not to be this way.

I think my heart just frozen. Again.

Not very surprising. It takes a lot for me to thaw anyway.

It’s hard to come clean.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Chris
    Jun 02, 2008 @ 12:23:02

    Not really an accurate gauge. Almost all the men in SaTC are loose and non-commitment type (except spencer?? =.=). Thats american gender bias-ism for you.

    Don think so much la, its exactly what it looks like, a show.

  2. MR Q
    Jun 05, 2008 @ 18:31:09

    i agree with Chris.
    even his name gives me a wrenching ache in my heart, talking abt fatal attraction. Too bad that i like “bad” guys, or rather people (note, gender undefined) that are consummate flirters, and those with specific cultural capital. (At least understand what i mean when i say that food is sensual, yes?)

  3. papersky
    Jun 05, 2008 @ 20:05:58

    heys darling, *hugs*. My heart is slowly getting frozen again too.

  4. Chris
    Jun 06, 2008 @ 22:26:24

    You see that Q?

    Thats the difference between a “guy” comment, and a “gal” comment. Totally killed the vibe man…


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